| Truth or a lie? | 4 comments |
 1 Dec 2009 @ 02:05How can you know that there is a lie involved in something? Very simple. If that thing or situation or condition you want to change is NOT CHANGING, than you have not found and looked at the truth yet. If any condition persists, if the state of affairs are unchanging, than you can be sure of one thing: there is a lie involved somewhere along the line in that equasion. You are not looking at the truth, however you try to believe that you do. All too common examples You say, that you do everything possible to improve your health. Let’s say, you want to loose weight, but you are not loosing any. You swear that you do everything, keep the diet, excercise program, go out jogging or walking more often – but that fat is not getting off. Damn! Honest, you only skipped every second training, only took one or two extra cookies or meals a day, only that little extra piece of pizza, it cannot do much harm! Well, let’s face it, the scale shows it’s not changing, so there is a lie involved... Another example, financial situation, unchanging. Being in debts all the time. Oh, you wonder why? You find all kind of reasons, try this and that, but the debts just stay or grow. So the truth is somehow not confronted. The truth is, debts only collect up when one is simply spending more than one earns, and that for a long time. Rock bottom So the thing to do is to view your situation, your habits or the condition you find yourself in as-it-is. Rock bottom - that is, not trying to paint a better picture than it is. Not trying to explain it away at all. No justifications. Just look at it and see it as it is, and tell yourself straight what you see. Painful? First it might seem like it. But not really. It is actually a relief to find out and view the real truth. You will suddenly see the light at the end of the tunnel. Your honesty to yourself will help you confront the situation for real, and it will open the door the solution and the permanent change. Change Your mind is such a powerful device that whatever you think will become your reality and it will affect your way of experiencing life. So it’s good to realize, that you have the power to change anything, including your own mind. Indeed, you are so powerful, that YOU are the only person who can change your mind. But before you can change your mind about anything, you must dare to take a peek and see the truth of what is there to be changed – the existing thought, the exact truth of your considerations. You can only change your mind about something that you SEE exactly as it is! Do you like yourself? Next time I will write about the long term effects of self deception. Why is it that you don’t really like yourself? How can you ever find any peace of mind? More > |
| The worst lie | 5 comments |
 7 Nov 2009 @ 14:52They say, you can lie to others but you cannot lie to yourself. Now, I can tell you from hard won experience, that this is totally the opposite. It seems that the person you are most likely to lie to on a daily basis is noone else but YOU. „Oh, that cannot be, I am so honest, how could I cheat myself” – you say. Hmmm, is that really so?! Sorry, but that is not what I see around me on a daily basis while working with my coaching clients. I must admit, I also gained a large part of this experience from my own personal development. It’s indeed the gravest area of dishonesty, with far reaching effects in all areas of life. You might be an excellent actor toward the outside world, to the point that you ALMOST believe that favorable image you put up about yourself, your actions or habits. You can also be an expert at habitually lying to yourself, making it all look better than it is – but beware, however smart you try, it will slowly but surely catch up with you – because deep inside you KNOW. You cannot TOTALLY hide the truth from yourself. Keep on reading carefully, if you dare to face up to it. If you do, there is hope for you. You might ask: „Why should I lie to meself? What there is to gain?” – So let me tell you three good reasons. More > |
| Life reboot - Part 3: Recognizing the trap | 5 comments |
| 31 Oct 2009 @ 15:09 Part 1: Waking up Part 2: The trap Have you ever felt like you are dragging yourself through life? Well, I have. On Mondays I wished it was Friday already. When the weekend finally came I got soon bored and it passed by so quickly I hardly noticed. In the autumn I looked forward the winter holidays, in the winter, I was dreaming about the summer, and when it was summer, I did not even notice it passing by. Do you have the feeling that your life is stopped by barriers? I had that often. I felt like I am not yet ready to go – there are obstacles I must overcome or solve first, before I can really create my life. As Father Alfred D Souza expressed it: "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin.” – does it sound familiar? I was waiting for as sign, something unexpected to happen, a miracle to turn my life around. I imagined and dreamed of all the good stuff I wanted, placed it in the future or in some kind of nirvana that may materialize if I really deserve it. I was unconsciously trying to avoid living in the moment... More > |
| Do not think! | 0 comments |
 30 Oct 2009 @ 10:15There is so much to do! Have you ever felt like you are literally dizzy from all the things that demand your attention? But your day, as well as mine, usually consists of 24 hours, whether you like it or not. So, the smart thing to do according to most time management guru's is to learn how to utilize our precious resource called TIME. A falsehood, right there. How can we deal with a resource which does not even really exist?! But regardless of our enlightened philosophical view on this matter, the clock is ticking away for the world. Regardless of miraculous moments in the Power of Now, everything around you seem to assert that time exists, and if we don't move along, we are left behind. Time in this reality is agreed upon so strongly that it is almost unbendable. The sun comes up when it is set to come up in any given time of the year, and it relentlessly goes through its path in a couple of short hours and it ruthlessly sets. We measure these changes by a cruel creature called the clock. It is ticking, so we are reminded that time has passed. Of course there are really high creative spirited moments, when we break the spell, and we are outside of the time-world. There is no time – we are free to stretch out the moment, or speed it up, it is all up to us. But those moments of being the master of time are rare – mostly we sink into the commonly agreed structure and we hurry to the next meeting, or to catch the next deadline, always racing against time. So, lets get to the point of this article, which is not to tell you that we are doomed. There are wise ways to deal with things, even such a tough one as time. So, what do you do if you want to win this battle, and get something done but quick? Do not think. Yes, do not think! I mean don't beat your brains endlessly, in place of action. Rather, start to act, one way or another. Did you realize, that while you are thinking, the whole project or task just stands still, dead in the middle, nothing moves forward?! More > |
| Life reboot - Part 2: The trap | 2 comments |
 6 Sep 2009 @ 10:31Part 1: Waking up While I am a professional in my area and I have always been proud of doing a good job, whatever great results I delivered, however people praised me that I am brilliant, I could not get real satisfaction out of it... OK, I know I am good. And? How does that solve it? That does not get me much closer to my original life purposes in itself. So I still I could not get satisfaction or peace of mind, because my basic purpose, THE purpose of my life, seemed to have failed. I did not admit that, oh, no. It took me quite a while to admit and realize how much effect it had on me, that a group, which I have chosen to be part of eternally and give all my power to, turned out to be a false choice... More > |
| Life reboot - Part 1: Waking up | 1 comment |
 4 Sep 2009 @ 21:33Just another morning... The alarm goes off in the late morning and I snooze it, again and again... for at least an hour. Why wake up? Dreaming is so pleasant. I dreamt for hours in the mornings. Reconstructed the past, looked at variations of unsolvable situations, tested future possible scenarios. That’s the job of the mind, searching for solutions. How to survive, how to win. I decided to let it run away, maybe it would dream up the final solution that will set all things just right. So I pushed the snooze button on the clock every 10 minutes and dreamt away... I am part of the elite corps again... the situation is hopeless all around, the planet is flooded, we are trying to get everyone evacuated, senior officers are shouting commands, we are running to save lives of others not caring about our own - and all what I am busy with is a strong protest, disagreement with the orders, the commanders, the whole situation. It is just not right, it should be handled another way! ... More > |